Someone said if we could just fill the empty void left by missing or disconnected dads every prison in our nation would shut down. Many of those behind bars have major daddy issues. Any body can be a father, but it takes a special someone to be a dad.
When dad’s aren’t around to connect it creates a gaping hole, leaving many to walk through life wounded, feeling unloved, lonely, and isolated. Of course I’m not minimizing the role of mothers, but I am saying there’s a special place in every child’s heart that only a dad can fill.
There is a special need in the heart of every child to know the love of their dad. When that loving bond is in place, a kid’s confidence sores, a strong personal identity is established, and they begin to view life in a positive way. When that connection is there dad’s have an open door to speak into their life. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”
I have 5 beautiful girls, and one son – our caboose. I’ve prayed about an activity we could do together to establish this kind of father–son connection. After trying a few things we’ve discovered we both enjoy fishing.
I love to fish, and when I go I want to catch the big ones, the large mouth bass snuggled under the sunken tree. However, it’s impossible to focus on throwing lures with a three-year old at your ankles. What to do?
After a little YouTube research we discovered a way to make fishing time connection time. Little did we know, large catfish love blue gill. They can’t get enough. I’ve always used worms or chicken livers for catfish, but nothing beats blue gill.
So, my son and I developed a plan. He catches the blues gills which become our bait. We then throw out a few catfish lines, and while they sit we catch more blue gill, crawfish, frogs, and turtles. This keeps him in on the action, and helps him experience the joy of fishing and the outdoors. While we wait there’s a chance we could hook a good-sized cat.
Our system isn’t flawless, and we’re still learning, but it does keep us both involved. As you can see we’ve had a little success, and hope for better times to come. If you’d like more information on catching cats with your kids check out this link.