Dad took us scuba diving for the first time in Jamaica when I was 16. All we had to do was take a 30 minutes crash course. We then signed a one-page waiver exempting the business of any liability in case of brain damage, an exploded lung, or death by shark attack. Our instructor boated us about a mile from shore, and in we went – free to swim to the bottom, 90 feet below. We survived, and it turned out to be an unforgettable experience.
If you’re going to do anything involving risk, prior training is required, even in the remote islands. Kids take Driver’s Ed before they get behind the wheel. To pilot a plane, you must complete flight school. We’re opening a pre-school at Roots Church, and every teacher has to undergo a thorough background check and be certified through the state.
But when it comes to marriage, the most challenging and hopefully rewarding endeavor in the world, there’s no prior training required. All you need is that loving feeling, that quiver in your liver.
Thankfully, we have God’s instruction manual for a blessed marriage. In this series on relationships, we’ve studied the life of Jacob and his crazy family. Let’s take a moment and look at Jacob’s dad and mom to see how that experience impacted the trajectory of his life. Then we’ll turn our attention to Ephesians 5, and discuss four essentials for a blessed marriage.
Jacob’s parents, Isaac and Rebekah, fell head over heels in love the first time they laid eyes on one another. Eyeball to eyeball, they lost track of time and heard the same love song in their minds. Unable to keep their hands off one another, they made the plunge.
Genesis 24:67 – ..Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her…
He sent flowers, opened the door at every opportunity, and cooked her favorite meal on Friday nights. She dressed up in his favorite outfit and sent him romantic texts. They danced, played cards, and traveled for fun. Even though it was uncomfortable and made their arms sweaty and numb, they still fell asleep, embracing one another.
Then Rebekah got pregnant. The newlyweds were thrilled, even through the difficult nine months of waiting. Rebecca felt like she had two turkeys instead of one. Sure enough, twins came out on the day of delivery – Esau and Jacob.
Their saucy relationship changed overnight. They just wanted to watch Netflix and sleep when date night came around. Instead of two lovers under the covers, they were more like two flag poles in the night. What happened?
Genesis 25:27-28 – The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents. Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.
Esau and Jacob were as different as oil and water. Esau liked the woods, hunting, and fishing. Jacob wanted to stay at home and make shrimp Gumbo. The Bible says dad loved Esau, but mom loved Jacob.
To Be Continued…