I think one of Joseph’s most outstanding qualities was his self control. Notice Matthew 1:18, “Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit.”
Notice the words, “…before they came together”. This child was conceived by the Holy Spirit, not of man. That’s the main point. But, it also tells us of Joseph’s own character. It speaks of his purity and his commitment.
The betrothal period lasted about a year. Joseph was a young, healthy, strong man in his late teens, but he put God first in their relationship. He is a great example of self control.
Self control isn’t just a quality for the super saints. It’s a quality every Christian is to have and to enjoy. It’s one of the evidences of the Holy Spirit at work in our lives along with love, joy, and peace. It’s the strength to control our passions and desires that often blow in like a great gust of wind to throw us off course.
Notice Proverbs 25:28, “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. Walls around a city were for defense, for protection. A city without walls was a weak city, a vulnerable city. A person without self control is weak and vulnerable.”
Self control is one of the greatest qualities a family man could have. Our passions and desires as we age don’t get old or weak. The older we get the stronger our passions and urges become. Its good to be able to hold those impulses in check, and choose in a moment of weakness to do what’s right for the family and for the Lord.